As most of us would agree, building a relationship, finding a partner for that matter, has become a tricky part of our existence. Different factors affect our luck, or misfortune when it comes to finding the “one”. Society plays a major role in this. It dictates different types of norms that can withstand the changing time. No longer exists this single norm that is above the rest. The clear perspective on this is that freedom can be practiced. Choices and options are readily available.

Sexuality is also a factor in this journey called relationship. Present society is very accepting of our preferences. Straight men and women search for the opposite sex, bisexuals are open to both sexes. A variety of sexual orientations exist.

Values are very important to some. Certain things like BDSM might not be appealing to someone conservative. Swingers are all over. If you’re not into it, then be adamant about it. Couples who have an open relationship have agreed to see other people with no strings attached.

Our intentions, who and what we are looking for, and what we want out of our search, are also elements of the whole process. The clear success of our search is determined by our honesty, openness, and willingness to compromise. It only takes two people to understand the needs of each other and accept the differences between them.

Communication has been “dead”, if not forgotten. People assume that whatever comes in handy doesn’t entail any further change of some sort. The point of the matter is, some people don’t reach out, some remain quiet, some words just fall on deaf ears, important matters aren’t reckoned with. When things don’t work out, denial comes into play, and so is the failure of something that has the potential of coming to fruition.

Lucky are the ones who have found their significant other. Luck may be the word or let’s put it in a better perspective, these are the ones who have resolved their issues with their partners, although not perfect at all, the openness for changes and suggestions have become an integral part of their relationship. I guess some will also agree that “for convenience” also exists.

What does it really take……